07 May Creating Balance
By Pastor Eiffey Bedi
I am a wife, a mother, a freelance translator, and a pastor, and I want to share with you some of the success strategies I’ve found for how to balance life and all its demands. I realized in writing this that I’ve gotten so used to wearing all those hats that it now seems so natural and normal to me!
So, how do I do it, you may ask? The answer is simple. It’s God. I know you may have heard that so many times that it has become cliché or redundant in your ears. Here we go again with more “Christian-ese” lingo, right? But, truly, when I embarked on this journey, I never thought I would be where I am right now. My vision was quite simple: be married to the man of my dreams, have a bunch of babies, and help as many people as we can along the way by demonstrating the love of God towards them. Unbeknownst to me, God’s plan for my life was that I would marry a man with a call of God on his life and that I would be called to ministry, as well.
In the busyness of life, when I have to parent my sweet, rambunctious, and opinionated 3 1/2 year-old-daughter, counsel an individual who is on the brink of giving up on life, cook a meal for my family so they don’t starve, finish up a translation for a non-profit organization, wash dishes (which I don’t care for…), it can easily get overwhelming!
Before I start feeling overwhelmed and caught up in what seems like a hectic day, though, I have to pause, turn to God, and remember that He is with me just as presently in my kitchen, where my daughter is having a meltdown because she wants to watch a cartoon on her tablet and mommy said no, as He is when we are bringing a word of hope and encouragement to a church member in crisis.
So, here are my four success strategies for embracing and excelling in everything we do:
1) Be fully dependent on God.
God doesn’t see us as burdensome. He wants us to rely on Him! As Scripture says in Proverbs 3:5 “…and lean not on your own understanding…”. We must realize that apart from Him, we can do nothing – He is the vine and we are the branches (John 15:5). Remember that, according to Acts 17:28, in Him, we live, move, and have our being.
I’ve learned to remain connected to God through communion and fellowship with Him and not minimize the benefit of prayer. I personally believe we can pray without ceasing and also have a dedicated time for prayer – it shouldn’t be one or the other, but both.
Dependency on God doesn’t mean we are being lazy. Au contraire, it’s realizing that God in me makes me able!
2) Be gracious and patient with yourself and others.
Treat yourself and others with grace. When you miss the mark, repent, forgive yourself, and move forward. Psalm 103:10 says that God does not treat us as our sins deserve or repay us according to our iniquities. Our God is full of grace (unmerited favor as manifested in salvation and the bestowal of blessings).
Being able to balance these roles is part of our life journey. Sometimes, we allocate more time to one area and neglect other areas, and in the process of adjusting and aligning, we need to strive to be patient with ourselves.
3) Go on time-out.
Yes, you read that right. The concept of time-out is not just for your children, but for you, as well. When you feel like you’re about to lose your mind, figuratively or literally, it’s ok to let your family know you need a break. During that time, do whatever refreshes and rejuvenates you.
4) Enjoy the journey.
Learn to be content in your current situation and avoid the trap of comparison. By doing that, I’ve been able to remain thankful to God while enjoying my life and my family.
So, be encouraged that you really can handle the demands of life! Even if you feel like you are being pulled in many directions at once, God is able to give you the grace you need for each role and each season so that you can prosper and find balance in every area.